09-7-22 - Pediatrics
Social skills are a way of communicating with others that creates healthy and positive interactions. Children with age-appropriate social skills can communicate clearly, calmly, and respectfully with adults and their peers. They also show consideration for the feelings and interests of others.
It’s important that social skills for children are built on and developed from early childhood. Of course, they’re not learned at once but refined throughout child development milestones.
The importance of social skills
Good social skills provide many benefits to young children in many social situations and interactions. Additionally, such skills can often lead to success in many areas from school settings to personal lives.
Social skills help children:
- Form positive relationships
- Have conversations
- Develop body language
- Play together
Having well-developed social skills also leads to improved mental capacity, cognitive abilities, and overall mental health.
Basic social skills start to develop in a newborn between birth and four weeks old when a child is learning how to interact with their caregivers and environment. Social communication for a young child at this age may look like:
- Making eye contact
How family members react to their child’s social skills will teach them how to respond in the future to meet their wants and needs. Social milestones may be affected or enforced by how a parent reacts to a situation because children will observe others to learn behaviors. How adults model behaviors when responding to fear, surprises, other adults, children, and more will be processed by a child and influence the child’s responses.
Social emotional learning in child development
These basic social skills learned early on are also related to a child’s emotional development as they learn how to respond to:
- Conflict resolution
- Active listening
- Relationship management
- Basic etiquette like when to say “please” or “thank you”
- Making eye contact
- Learning the names of casual acquaintances
- Asking questions during a conversation
- Reading body language
- And more
Social and emotional development are connected by a child’s experience, reaction to the experience, and how to regulate their response depending on their experience. This is important for building relationships with their peers as they enter school-age and into adolescence.
If a child does not express age-appropriate social interaction or emotional regulation, it may affect their relationships with others and their ability to self-regulate.
All children are unique and may not reach these milestones at the same time as other children; however, if you are concerned about your child’s social and emotional development, please consider how Occupational Therapy could benefit your child.
What are the milestones of social development during childhood?
Social development in childhood often looks like play. It considers how a child interacts with their caregivers and later their peers. A child is also developing emotionally while developing their social skills.
You may notice some emotional responses present in social settings that are new to your child or possibly overwhelming for your child. You can encourage social development by talking to your child and facilitating socializing with other children as soon as you feel comfortable.Here’s what social behavior can look like for different milestones:
Toddlers begin to learn how to interact with others. As they develop and perceive their individuality within their community, they also gain skills to communicate with others and process their actions.
Preschool-aged children begin regulating emotions, sharing with others, and following directions. These skills in early childhood lay the foundation for developing literacy, numeracy, and other cognitive abilities critical for success in school and life for a young child.
School-age children are advancing toward adolescence, and peer friendships become very important in their social and emotional development. Their sense of independence increases, along with their confidence to solve problems and perhaps take risks. In adolescence, healthy emotional development is marked by a gradually increasing ability to perceive, assess and manage emotions. This biological process is driven by physical and cognitive changes and is heavily influenced by context and environment.
Examples of places you can take your child to socialize include:
- Play Groups
- Sports or Tumble Classes
- Local Activities
- Parks or Playgrounds
- Children’s Museum
- Relative’s house or family gatherings
This will build up their social behavior skills in an age-appropriate setting and increase their confidence in their ability to communicate and play with others. By encouraging these interactions when age-appropriate, you can also promote positive experiences and model behaviors appropriate in these settings.
This may look like:
- Teaching a child how to introduce themselves
- Interacting with appropriate manners
- Following instructions
- Asking for help
As a child ages, these social interactions and settings will look different, but encouraging an independence-seeking child to join clubs or school programs they are interested in will continue to form their social skill development.
Social Skills Development Delays
Social interactions and skills can be categorized by different milestones reached throughout childhood. Many factors can impact your child and the development of their social skills, and others should be considered before addressing any potential delay.
Some factors that impact social skill development include:
- Trouble understanding social cues
- Communication with others
- Carrying on a two-way conversation
- Difficulty with self-control
- Language barriers
- Mental health issues
- Genetic or hereditary condition
- Learning disabilities
- Intellectual disabilities
- Stressful situations
- Sensory processing
- Sensory regulation
These factors can be addressed through Occupational Therapy. The therapist can understand what may be impacting a child’s ability to socialize appropriately and can help implement the appropriate strategies to help. Getting a head start on this will help down the line with other important language developmental milestones.
It is also crucial to understand that your child may not be experiencing a delay in social skills. They may be using other methods of socialization and communication due to how their brain processes information in their environment. This will also be considered when providing strategies to encourage social skills outside of Occupational Therapy.
What social milestones should my child have?
Some social milestones, and related emotional milestones, by age, include:
Infants and Babies
Birth to 2 months
- Looking at caregiver
- Crying to have their needs met
- Self-soothes by sucking on hand or fingers
- Begins to imitate facial expressions
- Smiles more spontaneously
- Develops awareness of surroundings
- Crying, laughing, or smiling in response to the caregiver’s emotions
- Can differentiate familiar faces and strangers
- Likes to look at their face in a mirror
- Shows stranger danger
- May cry if their caregiver leaves the room
- Learns the meaning of a few words
- Shows preference of people they want to be with
- Enjoys games like “peek-a-boo”
- May show fear in new environments or anxiety to new people
- Imitates sounds or actions
Toddler and Preschool age
18 months to 2 years
- May become upset when trying to communicate
- May assert independence
- Engages in pretend play, will imitate what adults or other children do during this play
- Engages in side-by-side, or parallel, play with other children
- More frequent temper tantrums
- Does not understand what others think or feel (empathy)
3 to 4 years
- Can be spontaneously kind or caring
- Engage in cooperative play (child playing with others and showing interest in the other children and the activity)
- Uses words to communicate needs
- May still have tantrums if there is a change in routine or not getting what they want
- Begins to express a broader range of emotions
- Separate from caregiver more easily
- Begins to share toys with others
5 to 6 years
- More aware of following rules
- Enjoys cooperative play
- More conversational and independent
- Can understand embarrassment
- Understands other’s feelings
- May test boundaries
7 to 8 years
- Tries to fit in
- Expands their vocabulary, including emotional vocabulary
- May complain about other children’s reactions
- Greater awareness of their surroundings
- More aware of the perceptions of others
- Wants to behave appropriately but may not attend to directions
- They try to express feelings with words, but if they are unable to they may resort to aggression or tantrums
9 to 10 years
- Concerned about rules and could lead to bossiness
- Cooperative play in group games or settings
- Uses problem-solving, negotiating, and compromising skills with their peers
- Begins demonstrating sportsmanship
- Begins to develop their own identity
- May narrow their peer group to close friends
- Are more affectionate
- May change emotions quickly
Ivy Rehab for Kids Can Help
Early Intervention is key to getting your child the support they may need. If you notice your child is behind with some of these social skills, it may be due to a developmental disability. At Ivy Rehab for Kids, we offer pediatric Occupational Therapy, where our Occupational Therapists will listen to your needs as a parent and the child’s needs to create a unique plan of care for your child.
At the time of your evaluation and throughout your time with Ivy, your therapist will offer strategies to help your child reach the goals you have discussed. They are experts in approaching challenging social skills activities and working through any social or emotional situation they may experience during their treatment session.
Our therapists will also provide you with information and resources, so you can advocate for your child and use their recommended strategies at home.
If you have any concerns regarding your child’s social or emotional skill development, do not hesitate to contact your nearest Ivy Rehab for Kids clinic for more information. Visit our website to request an appointment online or contact the location nearest you for additional information.
Article By: Hannah Ardelean, PTA
Hannah began her Physical Therapist Assistant career just over one year ago. Hannah loves working with the Pediatric population and believes in the importance of providing evidence-based, quality, direct care to her patients. She currently holds certification to provide Serial Casting at her clinic. Hannah enjoys working with children of all ages and watching them achieve their goals and educating their parents on how to be an advocate for their children. She currently treats patients at Ivy Rehab for Kids in Davison, MI.
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Social-emotional development is a child's ability to express their emotions effectively, follow rules and directions, form positive relationships with others, and build confidence.What are some social development milestones? ›
Knows familiar faces and begins to know if someone is a stranger. Enjoys playing with others, especially family (such as “peek-a-boo”). Likes to look at self in mirror. Responds to other people's emotions and often seems happy.How do you help children develop social skills? ›
- Practise talking. Practise talking through role play, puppets and storytelling. ...
- Listen and take turns. ...
- Show the importance body language. ...
- Teach them about personal space. ...
- Develop their emotional skills. ...
- Find moments for learning in play.
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Developmental milestones are used to measure whether the child is developing as they should do at a particular age. Developmental milestones include physical, intellectual, emotional and social milestones.What are the 5 stages of social development? ›
- Stages of Psychosocial Development.
- Stage 1: Trust Versus Mistrust.
- Stage 2: Autonomy Versus Shame and Doubt.
- Stage 3: Initiative Versus Guilt.
- Stage 4: Industry Versus Inferiority.
- Stage 5: Identity Versus Role Confusion.
- Stage 6: Intimacy Versus Isolation.
- Stage 7: Generativity Versus Stagnation.
- Develop language skills. An ability to interact with other children allows for more opportunities to practice and learn speech and language skills. ...
- Build self esteem. ...
- Strengthen learning skills. ...
- Resolve conflicts. ...
- Establish positive attitude.
Emotional and social development
Want to please and be liked by their friends, though they may sometimes be mean to others. Agree to rules most of the time. Show independence. Are more able to distinguish fantasy from reality but enjoy playing make-believe and dress-up.
- opportunities for social interaction.
- active participation and meaningful engagement with others including family members, educators and peers.
Social skills training is not a specific curriculum, but rather a collection of practices that use a behavioral approach for teaching preschool children age-appropriate social skills and competencies, including communication, problem solving, decision making, self-management, and peer relations.
- Improve your emotional intelligence. Put yourself in their shoes. ...
- Look inwards. ...
- Practice effective communication skills. ...
- Fake it 'till you make it. ...
- Ask more than you speak. ...
- Give compliments. ...
- Be polite. ...
- Use open body language and non-verbal communication.
- Encourage eye contact.
- Learn to ask questions.
- Teach them emotions.
- Practice with role playing.
- Know your child's limits.
- Prepare them for higher level social skills.
- Be a good role model.
- Learning Links Can Help.
- Routines. Routines reassure children as they begin to understand the structure of the day and predict what is coming next. ...
- Feelings. Children need to learn to recognise their feelings and learn the words to label them. ...
- Role model. ...
- Talking and listening. ...
- Modelling. ...
Social and Emotional Milestone Checklists
Developing strong social and emotional skills can help child feel confident with building relationships, taking initiative to get their needs met, expressing how they feel in safe ways and asking for help when they need it.
- Education levels – for example how many years of schooling children have.
- Health – often measured by life expectancy.
- Employment Rates.
- Gender equality.
- Media freedoms.
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There are four areas of development; they include, physical development, intellectual/cognitive development, emotional development and social development.What are the 4 types of developmental milestones? ›
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They are categorized into 5 domains: gross motor, fine motor, language, cognitive, and social-emotional and behavioral. Understanding and identifying the developmental milestones can help the provider more adeptly recognize delayed development, facilitating earlier interventions and improving outcomes.What are the 8 stages of social development? ›
- Trust vs. Mistrust. ...
- Autonomy vs. Shame and Doubt. ...
- Initiative vs. Guilt. ...
- Industry vs. Inferiority. ...
- Identity vs. Role Confusion. ...
- Intimacy vs. Isolation. ...
- Generativity vs. Stagnation. ...
- Ego Integrity vs. Despair.
- Infant Development.
- Toddler Development.
- Preschooler Development.
- Middle Childhood Development.
- Adolescent Development.
- Adult Development.
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The parent-child relationships, the language used by the parents, the educational level of the parents, and the socio-economic status of the parents, and availability of leisure to spent with the parents, number of members in the family are the other factors influence the social development of the child.What are the social needs of a child? ›
To be safe and secure. Children need to feel that they are living and learning in a safe environment and that the adults in their lives are working to keep them from physical and emotional harm. They need parents to protect their feelings and not put them in situations in which they cannot succeed.What social skills should a 5 year old have? ›
- Wants to please friends.
- Wants to be like friends.
- Agrees to rules more easily.
- Likes to sing, dance and act.
- Knows the difference between fantasy and reality.
- Knows who is a boy or girl.
- Expresses likes and dislikes.
- Shows increasing independence.
At this age, children are becoming far less egocentric and are beginning to be able to more reliably see things from another's perspective. They are also becoming more social beings; they begin to adopt a more social 'world view', becoming more genuinely interested in others and in the world around them.What are the social milestones for a 4 year old? ›
- Wants to please friends.
- Wants to be like her friends.
- More likely to agree to rules.
- Likes to sing, dance, and act.
- Shows more independence and may even visit a next-door neighbor by herself.
- Aware of sexuality.
- Able to distinguish fantasy from reality.
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Social skills training (SST) is a type of behavioral therapy used to improve social skills in people with mental disorders or developmental disabilities. SST may be used by teachers, therapists, or other professionals to help those with anxiety disorders, mood disorders, personality disorders, and other diagnoses.
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- Strategies to Encourage Peer to Peer. Interactions in Early Childcare Settings. ...
- Set up Small groups. • ...
- Create a physical environment. that promotes small groups. ...
- Set up collaborative tasks with. one other peer. ...
- Direct conversations away. from yourself. ...
- Encourage interaction during outdoor play. • ...
- Set up dramatic play themes. •
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- Encouraging positive self-talk. SEL skills: Self-awareness, self-regulation. ...
- Learning about student interests. Click to download! ...
- Random acts of kindness. SEL skills: Relationship skills, social awareness. ...
- Writing a story together. ...
- Morning questions. ...
- Playing games.
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Show more independence from parents and family. Start to think about the future. Understand more about his or her place in the world. Pay more attention to friendships and teamwork.
Stage 1: Trust Versus Mistrust. Stage 2: Autonomy Versus Shame and Doubt. Stage 3: Initiative Versus Guilt. Stage 4: Industry Versus Inferiority.What are the milestones of social development of a three year old? ›
Interacting - Social and Emotional Development
Shows concern and affection for others without prompting. Copies adults and friends (for example, runs when other children run). Takes turns in games. Separates easily from parents.
Rolling over, crawling, walking, and talking are all considered milestones. The milestones are different for each age range. There is a normal range in which a child may reach each milestone. For example, walking may begin as early as 8 months in some children.Why is social skills important in child development? ›
Social skills help children interact with the world around them through relationship development, verbal communication, and body language. The right set of social skills will make it easier for a child to make friends, share with their classmates, and cooperate in social environments.What is the most important age for social development? ›
The first five years are especially crucial for physical, intellectual, and social-emotional development. Keep your child's personality and age in mind when looking for child care experiences and activities.What are some key developmental milestones and social skills for ages 2 3? ›
At 2-3 years, you can expect strong feelings, tantrums, pretend play and independence. Toddlers are developing new skills in many areas, including language, thinking and movement. Development activities include talking and listening, reading, playing outdoors, playing with others and cooking together.What are some social emotional developmental milestones for children ages 3 4? ›
During this year your child really starts to understand that their body, mind and emotions are their own. Your child knows the difference between feeling happy, sad, afraid or angry. Your child also shows fear of imaginary things, cares about how others act and shows affection for familiar people.What is a developmental milestone chart? ›
This developmental milestones chart is. designed specifically for Children Services staff. It includes normal expectations of developmental milestones for children birth through adolescence, and information about the possible effects of maltreatment.What are the 5 stages of child development? ›
- In general, the five stages of early childhood development are as follows:
- School-age child.